是性兼容性的事?我们问性专家

你是否问过自己这个问题:我们性兼容吗?如果是这样,我也一样。也许你第一次经历与性伴侣在卧室里不是最伟大的(也可以是正常的),和你开始怀疑如果你性不相容的。然后时间的流逝和性仍然不是你找的。当很多人说谢谢你,下一个。但事实是,性兼容性是更复杂的比我们许多人考虑。艾米丽·莫尔斯博士——专家和许多受欢迎的播客性与艾米丽承认性兼容性是非常真实的,并同意这是“非常重要的”。但是,许多人没有意识到的是,随着时间的推移可以构建性兼容性。如果你怀疑你可能性不符合你另有喜欢的人,不是所有的希望都破灭了。

抓住吗?以“性”来沟通。事实上,莫尔斯博士放下所有她最好的建议来改善你的性生活和性欲在相同的页面上,最重要的收获是,“你愿意倾听和保持开放彼此尝试新事物。”But the fact is, not all of us are great at在床上交流我们的需要——它可以感到尴尬或奇怪。但是考虑到伟大的性是岌岌可危,我们会说值得有点不舒服。

性兼容性是当双方都满意他们的性经验和有相同的共享的需求。举个例子,如果你都有类似的性欲或相同的花样繁多,你可能会对兼容的。与一些夫妻性兼容性是天生的,而与他人可以花时间来培养。

莫尔斯博士所言,“性兼容性是非常重要的。”However, figuring out your compatibility isn't always easy. "A good place to start is to see if you both have a growth mindset around sex. Specifically, if your partner is interested in talking about your sex life, trying new things, and making sure you're both getting your needs met. If so, you will find it easier to check in about sex and see if you're on the same page. Another factor is tied to sexual satisfaction. Partners who are more sexually satisfied report being more sexually compatible. What's most important is that you're both willing to listen and stay open to trying new things with each other."

“在谈论性与合作伙伴可能会让人望而生畏,”莫尔斯博士说。“他们决定有太多的风险和漏洞太多,所以他们通过失望性默默地承受。”Instead, Dr. Morse recommends her top advice for conversation around sex, called the three T's of communication: timing, tone, and turf. "If you're trying to talk to your partner about边(或任何你感兴趣的性活动探索),你会想在中性环境中这样做。这意味着不是在卧室里。相反,试着在厨房的桌子上喝咖啡或当你散步。你也要考虑时间,没有人想要性谈话时停止(饥饿、愤怒、孤独,或累了)。选择当你们都感到轻松、自在,开放。然后还有基调。同情和好奇。”

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有一个共享的性欲性兼容性的一个重要组成部分,但随着莫尔斯博士所言,“它不告诉整个故事。”"The majority of couples experience mismatched libidos, but the relationships that survive find ways to work with their desire and discrepancies rather than against them."