为什么“你减肥”不是一种恭维
我想停止服用“你减肥”看作是一种恭维,比我想象的困难
在我一生的旅程有正面的身体意象(叹息)我终于达到一个里程碑,大约一年我女儿出生后,我接受了我的身体。这不是对失去了婴儿的体重——上帝知道我身体的某些部分永远不会是相同的,或者获得一个一致的饮食或锻炼。这是一个安静的接受。我看着我剖腹产架子上,我的妊娠纹,我的乳房,想,“就是这样”。A year after carrying a baby, I reflected on how intense that was, and though it sounds cliché, I truly felt感激我的身体能够实现这样的壮举。
身体接受的是它并不等同于完全正面的身体意象——,我仍然在工作,还有一个重要的事情我决心改变。我不再把“你减肥”看作是一种恭维。
奇怪的是,我们中的许多人听到这句话——或者问题形式,“你减肥吗?”— and equate it with, "You look great!" That's what I always heard. Even if an actual compliment didn't follow. Even if I knew I hadn't lost weight, or felt pretty sure I'd actually gained weight since the person last saw me. Because in my head, and unfortunately, in so many others' heads, being thinner or weighing less or even just looking smaller is always preferable.
我为我的心智和身体形象,重塑这句话击中了我的大脑。这不是恭维。“你看上去太棒了!”是一种恭维,,“你看上去健康。”Here's the extra-difficult twist: I no longer say thank you when someone suggests I've lost weight. This has been so much harder than I imagined, because that weight-loss observation is always something I wanted to hear, even when I wasn't trying. I won't lie: not saying thank you is awkward. I've tried to come up with other ways to respond that don't sound as short as "Hmm," or "Probably not," but in truth, keeping it short and just moving on may be the best tactic.
我不想让我的女儿听到我感谢有人注意到我减肥,并自动将它等同于一个积极的。
当我这样做部分对于我来说,我真的为我的女儿。她现在只有2个,但是观察人们如何谈论他们的身体开始早,一样感受。我不想让她听到我感谢有人注意到我失去了重量,并自动将它等同于一个积极的,像我一样。我知道我必须模型的行为如果我想让她与她的身体好了,即使这是一个很难做我自己。我必须打破协会更薄更好。
和很多人一样,我感到我的身体是如何严重对她受到我妈妈的感受,这不是很好。当我年轻的时候,在我十几岁时,我总是记得我妈妈正在节食,尝试不同的减肥潮流,追逐的梦想脱落5到10磅。她从未满意她的身体,虽然我可能不准备说我满意我的身体(我尝试!),我感到幸运,我被很多比我对自己仁慈。
我控制不了我的女儿的环境和影响和意象,她将在她身体形象,将模具——事实上,我实在不敢想,将来她将面临什么,但我会参与创造一个积极的基础。我将从小事做起。她是值得的。
